THE TELL ME MORE GESTURE: How & Why to Welcome Conflict

Listening doesn’t just resolve conflict, “It creates us,” said writer Brenda Ueland, “makes us unfold and expand.” In her brave and wise guide, The Tell Me More Gesture author Janet Rowles carries the torch lit by Ueland and shines a light on putting the power of listening to practical use. Conflict? Bring it on!

 —Eric Utne, founder, Utne Reader

Learn to welcome—not fear—conflict to improve and deepen your relationships

Janet Rowles taps into her own experiences of both high-conflict mediator (professionally) and instigator (personally) to take an empathic approach toward helping you self-manage—and even welcome—your own conflicts. She encourages you to lean into conflict by saying three simple words: “Tell me more.” Throughout every chapter, it is clear that embracing conflict rather than suppressing it is essential for fulfilling your fundamental desires for deeper and more meaningful relationships. 

With her unassuming style, Rowles utilizes a rich assortment of teaching methods to support your study of the Tell Me More Gesture:

Real-life scenarios for deeper understanding 

Exercises for essential practice

Journaling pages that invite personal reflection

Online readers’ forum to engage with Janet and other readers who are developing their own practice of the Tell Me More Gesture

These complementary parts create an invaluable resource for readers of all backgrounds. 

In her mediation practice, Janet Rowles specializes in high conflict and emotionally difficult situations. She teaches the Tell Me More Gesture in workshops and speaking engagements, and trains mediators and other professionals in dealing with high conflict. A Minnesota native, Janet holds a master’s degree in human development and a certificate in alternative dispute resolution. In 2013, Janet received a Peacemaker of the Year Award from Minneapolis Public Schools.