Stitches

I hate my husband. I can't take it anymore.I never truly loved him; I just chose him for stability.Now I've decided it's time for me to leave. Life's too short to be stuck in a miserable marriage. There's got to be more out there. Not loving your partner anymore is just a sign of something much deeper.

The real question is: What got us to this point? How does a seemingly solid marriage or relationship suddenly fall apart? Why do these feelings justify leaving?

There's a big difference between knowing someone loves you and feeling that love. I don't doubt that my husband loves me but doesn't speak my love language. He refuses to try, and it leaves me feeling lonely and sad.

Vincenzo would do or buy anything for me, but that's just how he shows he cares. I never get spontaneous hugs or kisses. I even reminded him our anniversary was coming up, but the day came and went without a single word.

I have to ask him, "Do you love me?" and his response is always, "Of course." And that's it. That's the extent of our communication.

When your husband doesn't hug or kiss you, and acts like he'd rather be anywhere else, it hurts. I've told him over and over again, but he just acts like it's my fault. It's not.

I once asked him for compliments, and he told me he wouldn't give them because I'd "let it go to my head." I never asked again.

Being married doesn't mean you can just let yourself go-leaving the bathroom door open, burping, farting, neglecting yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually-and expect the relationship not to crumble.