Our Enigma: A father and son learning to decode each other's world

"Our Enigma" combines my personal reflections on the complexities of parenting, behaviour, communication, education, and more, with a broader perspective on autism. It aims to provide fathers and caregivers who may be new to their child's autism diagnosis with a heartfelt account of our journey as a father and son trying to navigate and understand each other's unique perspectives and experiences in the world we share.

It's important to clarify upfront that this book isn't your conventional parenting guide. Parenting, after all, doesn't come with a one-size-fits-all instruction manual, and that's especially true when raising a child on the autism spectrum.

In the pages that follow, I'll candidly discuss my initial challenges in accepting Rory's autism diagnosis and the emotional battles I faced, including bouts of depression and anxiety, even suicide. I'll also share how Rory's condition had a significant impact on my marriage, ultimately leading to separation, and how I eventually found myself taking on the full-time care of Rory.

Throughout the book, I'll delve into Rory's developmental journey and the unique challenges we faced together as I endeavoured to understand and support my exceptional child. Topics such as the value of patience and empathy will feature prominently, as well as my realisation that Rory had his own way of communicating, even before he could articulate his thoughts verbally.

Furthermore, I'll offer insights into the complex nature of autism and how individuals on the spectrum can exhibit a wide range of traits and behaviours. The essential role played by caregivers and support networks in the lives of autistic individuals will be discussed.

The overarching message of the book emphasises the importance of understanding, patience, and support in the context of a parenting experience that is both unique and often challenging.