I'm 40, Now What?: Dissecting A Midlife Crisis

There I was, another normal day at work, when that nauseating feeling of inadequacy and uncertainty came over me. Do I really love what I am doing for work? Did I make a wrong turn somewhere in my life? Have I wasted the past 10 or even 20 years pursuing things that don't matter? However, this "normal day" I'm talking about is a recurring day that happened more and more often as I moved past 35 years old. I'm constantly calling into question every decision I've made. It is wearing me down and eroding my mental health. I talk myself into taking some time to relax and readjust, but then I question whether I should have taken that time off or should I have gone headfirst into something and been more productive. How can every decision I make be wrong?

I needed to know if I was alone in these thoughts. I decided I was going to talk to other men around my age and see if they have these same thoughts. I wanted to know if I was way out in left field. I started the conversations with "Do you ever feel like" and then I would inject one of the numerous emotions and thoughts I've been having for the past few years. Almost every single person I talked to pursed their lips and slowly nodded their heads North and South, while giving me the "Oh yeah" look.

This book is my own personal story, and the compilation of many conversations with friends on the subject. This is my how I changed everything and learned to thrive during my midlife crisis.