How to Talk to Someone You Don't Want To - But Have To

As a renaissance man with many careers I have discovered some fundamentals to solving confrontations among people from varied backgrounds. Knowing what your rights are and expressing them to difficult people requires insights and strategies. How to identify codependency in your relationships. Why a persons intelligence decreases in direct proportion to their anger and emotions. Why body language is more than crossed arms can how it gives you away in a conflict. How to turn resentment into rapport with an I statement vs. You statement. How to negotiate win-win agreements on & off the job. Getting someone to do what you want for a change. How to eliminate five problem-causing words from your vocabulary. Your Customer is not your Child. The Difference between Listening & Hearing. The Five Rights for Everyone. This book is written to meet the needs of those who want information that is not directed to a highbrow intellectual or to a conflict for dummies category. It is meant for real people that are not identified by how many dollars they have, but by how many relationships they need to deal with on a regular basis. People today, regularly clean up their computers of software that no longer serves them well. Either it is outdated or it runs all the time and slows down their processor. What we need to do is do is a maintenance check on our selves regularly rather then waiting to break down and then going to a therapist for an expensive repair. The majority of the clients I taught in anger management classes had been arrested for the first time and were then directed to the class because things were not working well in their lives. They did not heed the warning light on their operating system or dashboard blinking away at them. In terms of your emotional health, living a life with all kinds of grief and anger causes more sickness and a shorter life. This is not rocket science that you need to follow. What you learned as a child and still use to protect yourself needs to change. If you dont see it, rest assured others see it in you and can manipulate you because of it. I have participated in more than 75 personal growth workshops over the past 50 years. Some were for the day and others for weeks in isolation. Exclusive of my formal education referred to later in this book, the list includes Gestalt, primal therapy, MBTI instrument, Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, personality tests, H.A.I., yoga retreats, Sufi Camps, Burning Man, and others both popular and obscure. Most of them fall under humanistic studies.Pushing the borders, stretching the boundaries, looking for answers to why we do what we do, this is my intriguing passion.