Erectile Dysfunction: A Guide for Partners

The only thing predictable about sexual dysfunction is its unpredictability. While most married couples spend their retirement years traveling, working part-time, or doing nothing at all. I spent my early years of retirement teaching health education engaged in understanding the male reproductive system, particularly the penis. My interest in this area began with my husband unexpectantly experiencing sexual dysfunction in his mid-sixties. In the early stages of his erectile changes, I noticed that he was having trouble urinating or emptying his bladder and attaining a full erection. Instead of allowing him to feel alone in dealing with the problem by himself, I wanted to become the type of partner who would spend time understanding the problem and helping my partner find a solution to a problem that was affecting both of us.

As a non-medical professional who knew very little about erectile dysfunction (ED), my interest in erectile dysfunction evolved during my initial visit Johns Hopkins Medical Center in Baltimore. After speaking to Dr. Arthur Burnett, a urologist, I realized I needed more information in the field of urology on how erections occur and the treatment solutions available to men with erectile issues. To become more informed, I attended every visit to the urologist with my husband who was diagnosed with priapism. I also began to read several books and many articles on erectile dysfunction that emphasized the role of a partner in relationships with a man with ED. In addition I interviewed African American men who were currently experiencing erectile issues or who had sought treatment for erectile dysfunction, whose experiences are included in the book.

Erectile Dysfunction: A Guide for Partners is a product of my learning that will support partners of men with ED, help couples understand how the penis works, and some of the health issues that affect penile function. The best news is that the book provides available treatment options, some of which have proven effective for your situation. With this information, you and your partner can begin to engage in an honest and open discussion that can lead to an enjoyable fulfilling sex life.