EndTheMadness Guide to the Shidduch World

The EndTheMadness Guide to the Shidduch World is the definitive book on what's really wrong in the shidduch world and what needs to be done to fix it. It contains 267 pages of straight talk, including a comprehensive analysis of the various layers of the problems, practical solutions that apply to the entire community, and a wealth of supporting Torah sources and ideas. CONTENTSIntroduction .............................. .............................1The ProblemChapter 1 - Truth Is Stranger Than Science Fiction ..................... 5Chapter 2 - The Elusive and Illusive Quest for 'Frumkeit' ......... 16Chapter 3 - The Elimination of Natural Meetings ...................... 30Chapter 4 - The Failure of the Matchmaking System ................. 35Chapter 5 - Just Follow the Script .............................................. 42Chapter 6 - The Rise of Feminism .............................................. 48Chapter 7 - The Advancement of Technology ............................ 61The EndTheMadness Label Lexicon .................................... 64Chapter 8 - The Dreaded Shidduch Rsum .............................. 80Chapter 9 - Stupid and Insensitive Things People Say To Singles ... 86Chapter 10 - The Isolation of Singles ....................................... 100Chapter 11 - False Hope (or what dating web sites should file for) .................... 102 The SolutionChapter 1 - Wise Words from a Blind Man .............................. 107Chapter 2 - The EndTheMadness Covenant ............................ 110Chapter 3 - Natural Meetings ................................................... 131Chapter 4 - Events for Singles (NOT Singles Events) ............... 141Chapter 5 - Matchmaking ........................................................ 150Chapter 6 - HotKiddush: Online Meetings Revolutionized ...... 162Chapter 7 - The Role of Singles in the Solution ........................ 171Chapter 8 - The Role of the Community .................................. 177Chapter 9 - Dating More Than One Person at a Time ............. 180Chapter 10 - When Should One Begin Dating? ........................ 184Chapter 11 - Should One Wait for an Older Sibling? ............... 186Chapter 12 - Icebreakers ........................................................... 188Chapter 13 - Short Lessons from the Torah .............................. 189Epilogue .................................................................................... 194AppendixThe Dating Survival Guide for Orthodox Jewish Men .............. 197The Shidduch Value Calculator................................................. 217Debunking the Age Gap Theory ............................................... 226The 'Dhimmis' Among Us: Judaism's Lower Class .................. 243Appropriate Shidduch Questions ............................................... 251Bitachon and Hishtadlus in Shidduchim (and elsewhere) .......... 256