Beyond Damage

This book is directed at women who are surviving after living through (or are still currently living with) a mother who is toxic. This book is for women who are searching for recovery from unloving mothers. This book is both a memoir and a self help book. It's also an aggressive learning curve. It began as a tool for myself, and morphed into a desire to help others, due to the lack of effective solutions I was finding in the related literature. I'm going to share with you my journey to a better life - a life I found beyond my mother and beyond my damage; but no longer beyond my control.This book is not for women who want to 'work it out' with their moms. This book is for women who want to work themselves out. This isn't a 'hippy dippy, take it easy, go slow' thing. This is fierce. This book is the life hack version for women raised by emotionally abusive mothers. We will not be opening our hearts to the universe. I will not be offering warm, fuzzy things so you can gently approach a more inclusive and holistic experience on our metaphysical plain. We will not be learning to vibrate at a higher frequency.This book is a Louisville slugger to a set of headlights. This book is the shove. It's the push. This book is not a path - it's an uphill, rugged, unmarked cliff side.There is a way for us to build ourselves beyond and above our current framework. We need to believe our shell has potential to expand, to accommodate an excess of progress. We can surpass or transcend our current psychological/mental/emotional domains.The people in this world who enter the 'thriving' mindset are people who are living beyond trauma, damage, abuse, suffering and victim-hood. Our goal is to make sure you've left the place of 'victim' behind you. We are going to remove that description from your identity. On top of that - we're going to change you from 'survivor' to 'thriver.' Tough concept; I know. But it's real and we can do it.This book will help you be passionate about not carrying on a damaged legacy of love to the other people around you. It takes learning, it takes practice. The tools in this book are the ones children should be offered by loving caregivers. You were not. But it's never too late to change and never too late to learn. There is life beyond your damage. A life beyond your mother. A life that you control and have ownership of. A life that you can lay down in front of yourself, brick by brick, the way you want it to be. Lay that next brick and take that next step. Don't survive this life. Thrive in this life.