A Bdsm Primer

Let us introduce you in the world of BDSM

What You Need To Know Before You Start To Play

If you're looking for a BDSM guide, then you quite probably already have at least some idea of what BDSM is all about. That said, few people know exactly what the acronym means, or just how widely it can be applied. For that reason, before we delve into the ins, outs, hows, whats and whys of BDSM play, we're first going to take a moment to understand exactly what it means.

BDSM is, in fact, a compound acronym. It stands for: Bondage Discipline AND Domination Sadism AND Submission Masochism In short, it revolves around relationships in which one person has control over the other (or where both partners take turns to be in control) and may involve the use of bondage, pain, humiliation and exotic sexual activities to make sex more exciting. For most people, this means experimenting with bondage, pain, power play and other activities in the bedroom... and perhaps even venturing to a BDSM club or play party if they feel brave enough.

Of course, the actual meaning of BDSM is different for different people. Some couples are into heavy, protocol-based play, which they enact even outside of the bedroom. Some couples just like to enjoy a little light spanking and some fun with rope. Some couples like to play in public at dungeons and play parties, while some prefer to keep it a private affair. Some people like to have more than one partner, while others choose to remain monogamous.

Although BDSM in its strictest sense is mainly about control, dominance, submission and pain, you'll probably find that as you explore you'll come across a huge range of different sexualities, preferences and types of relationship. It's up to you, in the end, to decide what BDSM means for you.

Think of this guide as a starting point for your exploration of this exciting and vibrant world.

In the book we'll take a look at some important safety tips which will allow you to play safely and sensibly.

We'll show you how you can get your hands on some useful BDSM equipment to experiment with without breaking the bank, as well as what to do once you're ready to take the plunge and acquire some serious kit. We'll also look over some tips on bondage and roleplay to get you started.

This guide can be applied to a range of relationships... so if you think you might be interested in something a little different from a standard dominant / submissive situation, do please read on. You'll still find the tips here useful and relevant.

Done right, BDSM and kink can be life-enhancing, pleasurable and mind-expanding activities. If you're curious... if you want to explore... if you're ready to take your relationship to another level... or if you've always had a secret yearning that you've never quite fully realized... read on. This guide is for you.