2 - Styles of Communications

On this book were going to be talking about the 2 predominant communication styles which should improve your effectiveness as a communicator, persuader and /or as a leader. Especially CRUCIAL to folks entering a new group of people where the perfect calibration of strength and approachability is crucial in gaining a solid foothold in the group. People are too hung up on techniques and tactics without realizing there are actually 2 predominant modes or styles of communication one could shift into, to hit the sweet spot 'and maximize communication and relationship effectiveness not to mention persuasiveness and compliance, from your peers and subordinates Choosing the wrong one at the wrong time or to the wrong people? You lose respect, authority and they won't follow or believe anything you say Even worse...they'll shun you out PERMANENTLY for coming in too strong or too weak and miscalibrated Introduction 6 The Newbie and his homework 8 New house, new rules 9 Knowing the players 10 Credibility building 11 Chipping away 12 Technical Experts and Know -it- alls 12 Pockets of powers 13 Not created equal 15 Being the force of change 16 Communication between the sexes 17 Male psychology 17 Female psychology 18 Initial communication assessment phase in business 19 Direct style communications 20 Group talks and Direct style 22 Authority and Decisiveness 23 Arguments and Verbal jousts 25 Too Controlling 26 Hinting your power 27 Power is just in the mind 29 Weak communication 30 Alphas and Betas 31 Too stiff 32 Not listening 33 Flexibility 33 From the edge, inwards 34 Indirect style 35 Language from the edge 36 Asking questions 37 Indirect requiring more direct means 38 Arguments 39 Protection of Egos 39 Calibration and balance is key 41 Direct style transitioning to Indirect 42 Indirect style transitioning to Direct 44 Covering a topic 45 Power plays 46 Changing to Direct style mindset 46 Improving your communication style 47 Inner critique 48 Recording yourself 49 Talking in front of the mirror 50 External critiques 51 Culture and a larger vocabulary 52 Tips to improve your techniques 53 NLP Influence 55 Cautionary tales 57 Practice, practice, practice 57 Safe place 58 Inner game requirements for change 59