Summary of Harriet Lerner's The Dance Of Anger

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Book Preview: #1 Anger is a signal that something is wrong, and it is up to us to listen to it. We have long been discouraged from the awareness and expression of anger, and this has led to the Taboo of Anger against women.#2 We all have a right to everything we feel, and our anger is no exception. But there are questions we can ask ourselves to help us understand our anger: What am I really angry about. What is the problem and whose problem is it.#3 If our old ways of dealing with anger are not working for us, we may fall into one of two categories: the nice lady category, in which we attempt to avoid anger and conflict at all costs, or the bitch category, in which we get angry but participate in ineffective fighting, complaining, and blaming that leads to no constructive resolution.#4 When we are nice, we often accumulate a storehouse of unconscious anger and rage. We may become more and more angry as we repress our anger and Guilt is a great way to block the awareness of anger.